: Acceptance :
I am learning to accept the things I cannot change Right now your soul is learning acceptance. This may force you to feel out of control in a situation or with another person in your life. Just realize that the universe has given you this incredible opportunity to release control. Perhaps doing so will help you realize that there is a rhythm-a rhyme or reason-to everything in life. Rather than thinking that these are "accidents" that are occurring, refer to these conditions as moments of "Divine Design." Maybe it is a person or a situation that you do not agree with right now. For that moment, instead of having a knee-jerk reaction based on an emotional response, stop, step back, observe, and make an attempt to understand both sides of the equation-which is an incredible gift for you to practice tolerance, grace, and patience. Realize that although you have come to except a situation or condition, it doesn't necessarily mean that you're condoning a behavior or that you support it. You see it for what it is and recognize that there is something rich to learn from it. The Soul’s Journey by James Van Praagh _____________________________________________________________ I talk about acceptance quite a bit. And this is something that I still to this day I continually work on. It isn’t easy. In fact, it is downright hard and frustrating at times. I never thought that I was one to want or need to be in control. But as I get older, I seem to want to be in control more than ever. Maybe it’s because I have more life experience. I have done a lot of trial and error and I don’t want any more errors. But that’s when life will swiftly remind you that you are not in control. While it is not fun, it is an amazing tool to learn from. And while I am still perfecting my acceptance and releasing control, the many times that I have done this I was able to find great peace in stressful situations. You see, accepting means seeing things for what they really are instead of the story you are creating in your head. When you accept reality, reality then becomes your friend. The suffering and pain will subside and you are free to move and free to think again. I really like this quote: While you think of acceptance as just another word, another concept, another trick of the mind, you will not see it as the replacement of learning, and as such as an active state, a state in which you begin to work with what is beyond learning, a state in which you are in relationship with what is beyond learning. It is in truth, a state in which you enter into an alternate reality, the reality of union--because you accept that reality. ~ From A Course In Love When you learn to ACCEPT everything for what it is, you can move freely with unconditional happiness and peace. Accepting does not mean that you are giving up on change or the desire to make the situation better. Accepting means you are consciously viewing life as truth. When you accept, you can make rational and peaceful decisions based on reality vs. the story you are telling yourself. I would love to hear from you – where do you find accepting vs. resisting comes into play in your life? Are you going through a current situation where you could start learning to accept to help you move through it? May peace be with you today – XxOo Tasha
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Be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it only when you accept everything you are – and aren't – that you will truly succeed. How true is this for you? Do you find yourself focusing on your weaknesses more than your strengths? Do you want to instantly boost your self esteem and confidence right now? Do this one thing: Accept who you truly are! The good, the bad, the perfect and not so perfect. Accept ALL of you! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- How often do you shove your weaknesses in a corner or under a rug so you don’t have to face them? Ignoring your weaknesses may be what you think you need to do in order to find peace but this will only be short lived and they will come back louder than before. Tell your ego to go fly a kite and LOVE your weaknesses! Why? Well I hate to burst your bubble but no one is perfect. I want you to find comfort in knowing that. Because for once the pressure can be released and you can feel lighter and fly higher! Often times we meet people and they are bursting with self confidence. They have this glow and attractiveness about them that people gravitate towards. It’s magical! What is their secret? Most likely they know they are not perfect. They are not consumed with negative feelings about themselves a because they have fully accepted their weaknesses. Instead they are concentrating on their strengths and sharing them with the world! This allows people to achieve greater peace and confidence in their life. Accept failure as a part of life and as a learning experience. When you expect perfection you are setting yourself up for failure. It’s easy to accommodate your weaknesses both at home and at work if you concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. Action Items: You need to be completely honest with yourself and show yourself some love. Accepting yourself starts with you and only you. You need to love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY. Flaws included. Make a list of all the things you are good at in the environments that you feel least confident in. Maybe it’s at work, school, at home, around others… Start to really open up with yourself and write down as many strengths you can come up with. They can be small or big but make sure you give yourself credit where credit is due! Next write down your weaknesses in these same environments. Again, these can be as small or big. Try to stay in a positive mindset when you do this because what I want you to feel is acceptance! So now that you have your list I want you to really meditate on both your strengths and weaknesses. I want you to start realizing that these qualities are what makes you YOU! But look a little deeper. A little harder. Look with an open heart and mind. Use your weaknesses and strengths! If there is an area in your life that is draining your self confidence I recommend that you take some action and shift your energy to something that will boost your confidence. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- Here’s a little story: I used to work at a Credit Union as a teller. And I SUCKED at it. I LOVED working with my employees, I LOVED interacting with the members that I helped but I quickly found out that numbers DO NOT mesh well with me. Accurate attention to numbers is not a strength I have. Every day I was anxious about going to work, I was anxious at work and I was anxious when I left work. I knew it was not a great fit for me. I had to come to terms that I was not succeeding at my job and I resigned. And I was happier because I was honoring my strengths and weaknesses. I accepted that I was not good at that position and instead of beating myself up over it I built my confidence up by removing myself from that environment and shifting it towards a new career path. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- So now that you have your strengths and weaknesses down on paper you can start to do some work with them. Visually seeing your weaknesses can help you understand where you need help ONLY if you are willing to work on it. You can only start to turn your weaknesses into a strength if you first accept them with an open mind and an open heart. If you want to help build your confidence in a particular area then ask for help. This can be in the form of more education, a trusted person, self help/study, etc. The tools are endless! But you may have weaknesses that you are truly willing to accept as they are – meaning, you have no desire to work on them. Now this gives you to power to start building your confidence and working on your strengths! True acceptance starts and ends with only one person: YOU! |