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I know that I cannot change the past ✨✨ This is perfect for the new year! ✨✨ The soul doesn't know time; time is a construct of the physical dimension. To your soul, there is only one big now. Think of the "past "as the now that has already been created, and the "feature "as the now that has yet to be created. You don't have the power to un-create the past, so let that go. Your power of creation lies in your awareness of the present. You have the power to not only create your future, but also create acceptance of your past. You should realize that you are the total summation of every single experience you have had. These experiences have helped shape you into the person you are today. Train yourself not to judge past events as good or bad but as opportunities. What have you learned from the past that will help enrich your future? Focusing on the past and letting it dictate the direction of your future is taking your power away from yourself. You are the creator. You hold the power. Reflect on the lessons of the past and use your current power to create your bright future. From The Soul's Journey card deck ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- As we approach the new year, it can be very easy for us to re-think about things that has happened to us in the past. Thinking about them until we start to feel sick or light headed or even anxious. I have done this... over and over again. In fact, it's starting to become habitual. Normal even. But it's not healthy. Nor is it productive. Remember when I mentioned that I was going to start focusing on my feelings more this year? Regret is one of those feelings that I am making a conscious effort to let go of. It doesn't serve my mind, heart and soul. I may not be able to completely get rid of it but if I practice each and every day then it will become habitual to not dwell on the past. And if you truly examine when we start dwelling on the past it's when our lives feel unstable. Or not as perfect as we thought. When we are facing hardships and stressed and not sure what we should be doing. You start doubting yourself - What if I had done this differently? I should have done this and not that. And then you stop listening to yourself by blaming yourself for the circumstances that has happened to you. But if we can just remember that the past is the past - that the only thing we should be doing is learning and moving forward - and to be kind to our self. To love our self. Each and every day. I certainly wish you the best year this year. Remember: life will always throw curveballs at you. Try to stay flexible, positive and know that this too shall pass. <3 XxOo Tasha
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As I sit here reflecting the past year and dreaming about the new year ahead of me, I know that I am not alone in this. Most of us do this today. We think about what went wrong, what felt right, what we accomplished and what we didn’t. This has been going on since before my lifetime and probably yours.
This year I am not writing out resolutions. I am not even creating goals. Because quite frankly I am really, really frustrated right now. Frustrated with life. Frustrated with my purpose. Why? Because I have been living this same story over and over and over. Resolutions serve no purpose in my life. It’s something you say that you want to change for the better and within a few weeks that resolution has been forgotten. We all do it. I have yet to hear about anyone that has actually completed their resolution… me included. And if you are that person that has completed a resolution then please comment below and share your victory! I would love to hear about it! Now I am not telling you this to be a downer. If you love making resolutions then by all means do them! Write them out, stick them where you can see them and aim to complete them. And you might wonder why I am not writing down goals, either. Hello, I am the Queen of Goals! But these so called goals that I have written over and over are not getting crossed off either. And this is where my frustration comes in. 2015 has been challenging. I moved over 2000 miles away from my home. My safe place. My family. I had really good intentions, though. I was really, really excited. To see new sights, new places, meet new people… I really do love travelling. I love a good adventure. But then reality slapped me in the face. And the adventure was gone. The fire was out. I started missing home. I missed my family. I missed everything that I once knew. I have no real life connections where I am at. I rarely even leave the house. I have tried over and over and over to create a successful online business and I keep building it the wrong way. What is wrong with me? Is a constant question in my head. Why can’t I just be happy? Is another thought that follows. I just don’t know any more. Now I want you to know that this is not a post where I am looking for pity. Believe me, my pity parties are not somewhere you want to be. And I certainly wish I was not the host. But I guess this is life currently. So you might be thinking – Make resolutions! Make some goals! And while that might seem like a good idea given the current situation, there is more to life than a resolution or a goal. And you know what that is? A feeling. Feelings are amazingly powerful. If you feel a certain way, your whole world shifts. So today I am searching for feelings and then making intentions to start moving in that direction. The amazing part about feelings is that you can rapidly start shifting towards that feeling. It does take a lot of discipline and mindfulness, though. And since I am no expert on this, I really don’t have a lot of advice to give other than meditation has helped me and so has Danielle LePorte’s book The Desire Map. This book is the golden ticket. I am still journaling, creating and visualizing my feelings that I want to work towards. Of course Happiness is number one. Happiness, contentment and peace. Something that is very much needed in my life right now and three feelings I am working towards. And did you see that cabin the in woods at the beginning of this post? This is what I am visualizing – my happy place. A place of comfort. Peace. And clarity. So if you are reading this and you can relate in some way, just know that you are not alone. You may feel alone… I also feel alone… but we really do have each other. And know that your problems are not as big as someone else’s problems. And if we can all just find some comfort and peace each day then each day may just be better than the next. You are loved. You are worthy. Tasha This is one of my favorite quotes today. I have this on my vision board that hangs above my desk. It is something I read every day to remind myself of the simplicity of this thing we call life.
I heard this quote this morning and I have been reflecting on it all day long. Reflecting on past relationships, new relationships, where my life was vs. now and how TRUE this statement really is!
"You can't soar like an eagle if you are scratching with the chickens." What does this mean exactly? It means you can't move forward in your life if you are surrounding yourself with the wrong people. You can't become your best self if you are not around those that want you to be your best self. It means you WILL become exact replicas of who is in your influence bubble! This could be positive - OR - it could be detrimental. If you are not loving life right now, if you are looking around wondering why you can never get ahead, if your dreams are not coming true for you... look at who you surround yourself with on a daily basis! You attract who you surround yourself with. You attract what is constantly on your mind and what you are obsessed with. Your close relationships - friends, co-workers, lovers, family - ALL impact and serve you in one way or another - both GOOD and BAD! Here are 3 action steps to help you SOAR! 1 - Review your closest relationships and see how they are serving you. How do you feel around them? Are they supporting your life goals and where you want to go? Or are they toxic and life sucking? Be honest here! 2 - Identify which relationships are not serving you and take action TODAY! Don't feel bad about this! Personalities change, goals change and sometimes we must remove our self away from the people that do not align with our current life. This doesn't mean you can't still care or love this person... this means that you are not allowing them in your influence bubble any longer. 3 - Take some personal development time to change your thought patterns. In order to live in a positive, abundant and successful life you must concentrate on developing relationships which are enriching, supportive and empowering! The bottom line is this - if there are people in your life that drain your energy, make you feel badly about yourself or hold you back, then you must take appropriate action, and quickly! We could all use some more confidence, right?! It’s an area that I work a lot in; for both myself and with my clients. Confidence affects all areas of our lives and is arguably one of the few things that separate happy people from the rest of the pack. There is no secret potion for confidence but there are some areas in your life that can be tweaked to allow more confidence into your life.
Here are my 5 go-to confidence boosters! 1 Dress the part Some may argue that clothes are just clothes. But I beg to differ. Think about a time where you looked and felt amazing – what were you wearing? We were comfortable? Did you have more self-confidence? Now think about a time where you felt uncomfortable – what were you wearing? We were uncomfortable? Did you have less self-confidence? What we wear plays a huge part in our self-confidence and life success. Everyone has their go-to outfits for work, play and outings. They fit us perfectly – both physically and mentally. We don’t have to think about looking good in them because we know we do! So the next time you are lacking self confidence, put on your best outfit! And at the same time get rid of clothes that are not serving you. Even if you just bought it last week – try to return them or donate them. Out of sight, out of mind! 2 Practice proper posture Having proper posture and sitting up straight is so simple yet so few people are aware of how our posture impacts our mood. Slumping down brings our vibration down with it and this will cause a radical shift in our self-confidence. Have you seen super confident people slouch or slump? Probably not! And by practicing better posture you will be more inviting to others – your vibration will be higher and more attracting! Try this: when you are sitting in a chair make a conscious effort to sit taller by straightening your back and by pushing your shoulders back a bit. Not only will your back LOVE you for this but your mood will shift from lethargic to energetic! 3 Practice gratitude EVERYDAY Having gratitude and being grateful is SO crucial to living a confident life! There is ALWAYS something to be grateful for – even if you are having your worst day, you can always find gratitude. The problem is that we are so accustomed to find the fault in everything that gratitude gets pushed far away. Realize that there are two motives in life – fear and love. Everything that you do or that someone else does trickles back to either fear or love. So let me ask you – are you living in fear or love? If you are finding more gratitude in your life than faults you are living in fear. Remember that it takes the same amount of energy to live in LOVE as it does to live in FEAR. The choice is up to you! There are many ways to practice gratitude. I like to journal each day and remind myself of the blessings around me. It might feel uncomfortable at first to write down all that you are grateful for because we are told to always be more or better. But in order to have more or to be better we must stop and be grateful for what we already have! Having more in life will not give us more gratitude – it will only make us strive for more and more in hopes to feel happy and confident which will always leave us feeling empty inside. 4 Smile more! Smile! You deserve to smile! Did you know that smiling changes your attitude and vibration instantly? A long time ago when I was going through phone sales training, my manager gave me a mirror and told me to SMILE while I was talking on the phone. Say what?! Smile while I was talking on the phone? OK – whatever you say! So I tried it. And while it wasn’t completely natural feeling my sales started to drastically improve and I was seeing more self-confidence in myself. Smiling changes your attitude right away! And those around you instantly feel it too. Let me ask you this: if you were to go into a room full of people that you didn’t know would you start talking to those that had a glum look on their face or would you start talking to those that were smiling? When someone is smiling it is normal to feel more drawn to them! So let YOUR smile shine through! You will start to attract more into your life! 5 Get moving Motion creates emotion – whether it be walking, jogging, weight lifting, yoga or playing sports, regular exercise is CRUCIAL for a healthy mind along with a healthy body. Make time for this each day! And if you are feeling stuck in your day or a bit “off”, a simple walk can do wonders for your mindset and mood! Even if you don’t “feel like it”, I highly encourage you to just get moving. Your serotonin levels will instantly start to rise, sending a feel-good feeling all through your body. Boost your movement and you will boost your self-confidence! COURAGE : I find the inner strength to face fear with confidence
You need to remind yourself that part of the challenge of being a soul is learning to honor your own power. By listening to your inner voice following its advice, you are acknowledging the perfection of your intuition. Fear is only an illusion, and obstacles are great opportunities for you to demonstrate that coming from a place of love will conquer all fear's disguises. Perhaps you are changing career paths or entering or exiting a relationship. This test has been put before you because it is an opportunity to prove to yourself that you, and only you, can make the correct decision. By not taking that step forward, you may find yourself two steps back, only to face that same obstacle again. Text via The Souls Journey by James Van Praagh What obstacles are you facing? Is this true for you? Each and every day you may be faced with obstacles that brings up questions. These questions need to be addressed and answered. These questions are the golden nuggets that your intuition is giving you. What can you do with them? Write them down. Sit still with them. Meditate on them. And at that moment the answer will come. Always. Your job is to open your heart, open your mind, open your soul and receive all that you can. Your inner guide - your intuition - always has your back. XxOo Tasha Green Juice… you’re my best friend in the morning. Psssttt… don’t tell Coffee I told you that! There is nothing better than slamming back a huge glass of kale, lemon and apple! It wakes me up, jump starts my day and allows me to feel grateful for this amazing journey I am on! Plus, it TASTES amazing! And don’t get me wrong… I still drink my coffee :) So what is my my AMAZING morning green juice? Let me tell you! My go-to recipe is: 2 Apples 1 peeled lemon 2 stalks celery 1 large cucumber 1/2 head kale I use a Breville Juicer and it comes out fabulous! Sweet and a little tart! Cucumber is extremely hydrating – a great way to wake up your intestines in the morning. Lemon is great for detox, greens for chlorophyll (aka liquid sunshine!) and apple for vitamins and taste! Sometimes I will add a small knob of ginger if I have it – this also tastes amazing! Do you have a favorite green juice? I would love it if you shared! XxOo Tasha Be confident. Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it only when you accept everything you are – and aren't – that you will truly succeed. How true is this for you? Do you find yourself focusing on your weaknesses more than your strengths? Do you want to instantly boost your self esteem and confidence right now? Do this one thing: Accept who you truly are! The good, the bad, the perfect and not so perfect. Accept ALL of you! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- How often do you shove your weaknesses in a corner or under a rug so you don’t have to face them? Ignoring your weaknesses may be what you think you need to do in order to find peace but this will only be short lived and they will come back louder than before. Tell your ego to go fly a kite and LOVE your weaknesses! Why? Well I hate to burst your bubble but no one is perfect. I want you to find comfort in knowing that. Because for once the pressure can be released and you can feel lighter and fly higher! Often times we meet people and they are bursting with self confidence. They have this glow and attractiveness about them that people gravitate towards. It’s magical! What is their secret? Most likely they know they are not perfect. They are not consumed with negative feelings about themselves a because they have fully accepted their weaknesses. Instead they are concentrating on their strengths and sharing them with the world! This allows people to achieve greater peace and confidence in their life. Accept failure as a part of life and as a learning experience. When you expect perfection you are setting yourself up for failure. It’s easy to accommodate your weaknesses both at home and at work if you concentrate on the positive aspects of your life. Action Items: You need to be completely honest with yourself and show yourself some love. Accepting yourself starts with you and only you. You need to love yourself UNCONDITIONALLY. Flaws included. Make a list of all the things you are good at in the environments that you feel least confident in. Maybe it’s at work, school, at home, around others… Start to really open up with yourself and write down as many strengths you can come up with. They can be small or big but make sure you give yourself credit where credit is due! Next write down your weaknesses in these same environments. Again, these can be as small or big. Try to stay in a positive mindset when you do this because what I want you to feel is acceptance! So now that you have your list I want you to really meditate on both your strengths and weaknesses. I want you to start realizing that these qualities are what makes you YOU! But look a little deeper. A little harder. Look with an open heart and mind. Use your weaknesses and strengths! If there is an area in your life that is draining your self confidence I recommend that you take some action and shift your energy to something that will boost your confidence. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- Here’s a little story: I used to work at a Credit Union as a teller. And I SUCKED at it. I LOVED working with my employees, I LOVED interacting with the members that I helped but I quickly found out that numbers DO NOT mesh well with me. Accurate attention to numbers is not a strength I have. Every day I was anxious about going to work, I was anxious at work and I was anxious when I left work. I knew it was not a great fit for me. I had to come to terms that I was not succeeding at my job and I resigned. And I was happier because I was honoring my strengths and weaknesses. I accepted that I was not good at that position and instead of beating myself up over it I built my confidence up by removing myself from that environment and shifting it towards a new career path. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- So now that you have your strengths and weaknesses down on paper you can start to do some work with them. Visually seeing your weaknesses can help you understand where you need help ONLY if you are willing to work on it. You can only start to turn your weaknesses into a strength if you first accept them with an open mind and an open heart. If you want to help build your confidence in a particular area then ask for help. This can be in the form of more education, a trusted person, self help/study, etc. The tools are endless! But you may have weaknesses that you are truly willing to accept as they are – meaning, you have no desire to work on them. Now this gives you to power to start building your confidence and working on your strengths! True acceptance starts and ends with only one person: YOU! It doesn’t matter who you are, we ALL experience lack of motivation. When you first start a project, or an idea, or a new life change, you are EXTREMELY motivated and happy! You wake up feeling positive, gung-ho and ready to tackle whatever it is HEAD ON! But… after a few days or weeks that lack-luster feeling starts to trickle in and you start to get in that vicious “I will do it later” mentality. That’s when later becomes a day, then a week, then a month and eventually you are back to square one again. Don’t you think it would take less effort to actually just DO IT rather than start and stop again and again and again? Sure it would! But how? How can you stop the roller coaster? Honestly, I have dealt with this my entire life. I am a master-procrastinator. I hate to admit it but it’s the truth. However I have developed some key habits to help me stay focused, motivated and to help me actually get shit done! 1 – Remember your WHY Why did you start? Sometimes I will write this over and over again. I have post it notes on my desk, on my computer, on my coffee maker; anything to help remind me WHY I started to begin with. And when the going gets tough I will focus on this one thing – my WHY. And you must truly be honest with yourself your goal. Are you doing this for YOU? Do you REALLY want to do this or are you trying to please someone else? If you are not mentally “in the game” then you are setting yourself up for failure. Avoid this by figuring out what YOU truly want! 2 – Create a SUCCESSFUL environment Your environment needs to support you and your goals. You need to create environments that will contribute to the overall success of your end result. Look closely at the people you surround yourself with. Are they rising you up or keeping you down? Examine your work area. Is it filled with things you love or do you dread the time you have to spend there? If you are not fully happy with your environment this will affect the overall success of your desired outcome. Environment is a HUGE factor for me! I must have my office area a certain way – colors, feelings, sounds, smells… all of these elements are crucial to my work success. If I have a fitness goal then I must surround myself with fitness – getting a gym membership, investing in some home equipment, signing up in an online fitness challenge group are all huge motivators for me. Take a few minutes to examine the areas in your life that could be holding you back. This could be a great time for you to make a much-needed change! 3 – Look at the past There are not many times you should look at the past but you must continually examine what you have accomplished! In the times you feel frustrated with your progress just take a moment and see how far you have actually come! If your brain is not allowing you to see that then talk to someone who has seen you progress through your journey – let them be the reminder! My husband is really good about praising me when I need it the most. I will vent my frustrations at him and he is very quick to state my progress and how far I have come. This little pep talk always takes me to the next level. I work harder and my progress is elevated! This is also a great time for you to write your achievements down and to re-evaluate your steps. Maybe something isn’t working out the way you thought. Constantly working at your goals is a great way to keep that momentum going! 4 – And maybe you SHOULD quit You need to get honest with yourself here. If you are struggling to find enjoyment in a goal or task then you need to figure out WHY. Is this something you REALLY want to be doing? Go back to number 1 – YOUR WHY. This is why it is so important for you to create goals that are for you and only you. At the end of the day if you are striving towards something that will please and benefit someone else you will lose steam quickly and end up failing. Maybe it’s not the right time for you to tackle the goal. Instead of disappointing yourself just back off and tackle it when you feel the timing is better. Give yourself permission to forgive yourself and know that you are not a quitter or a failure. Timing really is everything and you don’t need to feel ashamed. I certainly hope these tips help you stay motivated! I would love to hear about your goals and ways that you keep motivated – share below! XxOo Tasha |